If you watch TV court dramas, you know that divorce can be an adversarial process in which lawyers and their clients fight tooth and nail for money, validation and custody of the couples’ kids. One spouse is portrayed as evil or heartless and the other, a beleaguered saint. In the end, someone wins and the other loses.
Divorce occurs when a couple has finally had enough. It's often at one of two times: a moment of extreme tension between spouses, or a period of resignation where they seek a solution to a problematic relationship. The goal is the same in both scenarios: to end a marriage get out of a situation that isn't working for either party.